Things to Do When You’re Feeling Down

I’ve been feeling quite down, unmotivated, discouraged, and unhappy with many things recently.  I’ve been saying to myself, “I want to blog/write/etc,” but then I just can’t seem to muster up the energy and desire to actually do it.  But I’m trying to break through all that, and have been thinking about some things I like to do to try to cheer myself up when I’m feeling low.  I thought, why not share my list and maybe help someone else who’s in a similar rut.  So, here we go!

1. Take a nice warm bath or shower, relax, and try to let your tension melt away.  Also, be sure to pamper yourself by slathering on a nice smelling lotion after your bath.  I would highly recommend Fluffy Bunny from Farmhouse Fresh.  It is such a soft, comforting scent, described as “mint-julep, cream and just a hint of lavender”.

2. Listen to some music.  If something soft and soothing would help, go that route.  Perhaps something upbeat and happy will chase the blues away.  Or maybe something loud would allow you to release your stress and frustration.  Press play on whatever moves you, helps you to relax, or makes coping with whatever you’re struggling with a little bit easier.  Some of my favorite happy songs are: Can’t Complain by Relient K, Step With Me by MIKA, Best Day of My Life by American Authors, and Chocolate by The 1975, though there are lots more.

3. Eat your favorite food or whatever will make you feel a little better.  For some, that may mean crunching on a healthy salad.  However, comfort food or a bite of something sweet may be more uplifting or comforting.  This isn’t to say you should run to food and over-indulge as a method of dealing with any issues, but if having a cupcake or a slice of pizza makes you feel a little happier, treat yo self!

4. Watch funny, happy, cheerful shows and movies.  Pick whatever makes you smile, laugh, and let go of some of your worries for a while.  Some of the things I turn to are: Let’s Play videos on YouTube (particularly of the guys from the Mindcrack server), Pushing Daisies, The Wedding Singer, Nacho Libre, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, and lots of other movies.  If it’s funny, cute, or has fantasy elements that spark my imagination and inspire me, it usually helps me out of a funk.

5. Snuggle up with a good book.  Choose something positive or uplifting, such as an encouraging self-help book, or a devotional or your Bible (for those who are religious), or just something that lets you explore and get lost in another place and/or time.  Sometimes being able to escape into a book is a great way to relax and forget about whatever is getting you down.  Right now I’m reading: Falling Kingdoms by Morgan Rhodes.

6. Take a nap or snuggle up in bed or on the couch with your pet.  When I’m sad, there is something so calming about having Sebastian curled up in my lap or Simon stretched out across my chest.  Stroking my kitties’ soft fur and hearing and feeling their rumbling purrs is so comforting.  Whether you have cats, dogs, or some other kind of pet, spending some quality time with an animal is a special kind of joy.

7. Write or journal.  Maybe you like to talk your feelings out on paper, tell stories, draw, or cut-and-paste.  Whatever method or medium suits you, go to it as a way to release creativity, spend time with yourself, and work through whatever might be bothering you.  I like to write stories, keep a prayer journal, and create in my Radical Self Love Bible.

8. Sip a cup of your favorite warm beverage.  What’ll it be?  Coffee, tea, cocoa?  Drinking something warm (perhaps while snuggling with your pet, writing, or reading) always seems to evoke a feeling of being enveloped in a warm hug.

9. Get all dressed up for yourself and treat yourself in whatever way will bring you the most joy!  Eat that chocolate bar you’ve been saving in the pantry, buy yourself that cute pair of shoes you’ve been eyeballing, go see that movie you’ve been anticipating.

10. Do something nice for someone else.  Say hi to someone you haven’t talked to in a while or don’t talk to much.  That moment of connecting with someone else may give you a nice boost.  And you never know, maybe your reaching out is just the thing that friend or family member needs right now.  It’s could be like a happiness 2-for-1!  I know it always makes me feel happy when one of my friends contacts me just to say hello.

11. Play a game.  There are so many types of games out there!  Whether you need something to play on your own or have friends to join you, pick up that card game, board game, or video game and get to it!  A solo game may help you calm down or get lost in a different time or place, much like with a book.  And a multi-player game can do the same, with the added benefit of connecting you with other people for some laughs and good times.

12. Visit fun, calming, uplifting, and positive websites.  Don’t visit sites that are going to put you in contact with a bunch of negative crap.  Seek out content that will help you rather than exacerbate your situation.  Here are some nice sites from my bookmarks: Orisinal (a variety of cute little flash games), the quiet place project, Silk – Interactive Generative Art, Cat Bounce (Click it. You know you want to), YouTube (in addition to all the cute animal videos available, might I also suggest the funny content put out by people like crabstickz, danisnotonfire, jacksfilms (especially the Your Grammar Sucks videos), and nigahiga.  There are also so many blogs and sites out there with inspiration and advice regarding creativity, self-love, self-care, happiness, and other things that may help you and your situation.  I can’t name how many lists, blog posts, and pages I have sorted into different categories in my bookmarks so that I can refer to them whenever I need a little pick-me-up or a fresh idea.

13. Get moving!  Go for a walk, do some yoga or pilates, or dance around to your favorite songs.  It feels good to be active! Also, bonus good feelings if you go out for a walk and enjoy the fresh air and sunshine!

I know there are so many more things that could probably be added to this list.  I also know that different things work for different people, and I do not intend this to be a one-stop-shop for ideas and ideas or cure-all for any issues or situations anyone is dealing with.  However, I wanted to share some of the things I find helpful or enjoyable when I start to feel down and need to do something to counter those moods.  I hope this post is useful to someone else out there.  And please do share your thoughts and ideas as well.  I’d love to add more happy to my life, so feel free to recommend your favorite happy songs, movies, and shows, and anything else you do to perk up or care for yourself when you start to feel low.


13 Goals – Winter 2014/2015

Well, I didn’t do so great with my autumn goals (so much so that I’ve carried over a few of them to work on this season).  It’s probably not even worth reviewing what I did and did not accomplish, so I’m just going to go ahead with my list of goals for this winter.

  1. Find a new job.
  2. Save at least $100.
  3. Donate to a cause I care about.
  4. Make Thai Yellow Curry – Will be trying this for the first time!
  5. Undetermined social thing.
  6. Undetermined social thing.
  7. Complete a winter writing challenge.
  8. Make some paper snowflakes.
  9. Take advantage of some winter/after holiday sales.
  10. Write 10 non-TiLT blog posts.
  11. Get a nice new haircut.
  12. Go to the movies.
  13. Work on my happy play list.

There you have it!  Wish me luck!  What are some of your goals for this season?

Also, hop over to Petticoat Pedaler and Strangely Chantel to check out Lilian’s (who first came up with the idea of doing a seasonal goal list) and Chantel’s lists.  Maybe you’ll get some ideas for your own list of goals and join us for the challenge!

Things I Love Thursday: A Backlog of Happiness

I keep failing to post my weekly gratitude list, so now I have a backlog of things I’ve been saving and adding to over the past month or however long it’s been.  So~oo, let’s get to it!

What’s making you happy recently?  Let me know what you’d put on your list!

13 Goals – Fall 2014

Okay, so I know when I posted my summer goals I said I probably wasn’t going to document my goals here anymore.  I might have lied.  I want to keep challenging myself to get stuff done and do more things, and I think documenting my list here is a good way to try to hold myself accountable.

Several of my summer goals when unaccomplished: organizing my writing, saving $20 per week (I did well with this until I had to put what I’d saved so far toward a down payment on a newer car), having a weekly craft day, creating my magical girl persona (I still want to do this), and going to the movies.  However, I donated through the Animal Rescue Site to help kitties in need, made homemade popsicles, hosted a doll meet-up, did lots of social stuff for GISHWHES, blew bubbles outside, spent time with my characters, wrote 25,000 words of one of my stories for Camp NaNoWriMo, and made s’mores.

My list for this fall includes a lot of creating, so hopefully I can get my inspiration flowing, overcome my bouts of indifference (sometimes I just feel so unmotivated despite all the things I want to do),  and produce some great stuff!  So, here is my list of goals for this fall:

  1.  Participate in and win NaNoWriMo, though I will be rebelling and continuing with an already-in-progress story instead of starting something new.
  2.  Save at least $100.
  3.  Undecided donation/act of kindness.
  4.  Paint a canvas.  I believe I put this on one of my first two lists, but I still haven’t done it!
  5.  Undetermined social thing #1.
  6.  Undetermined social thing #2.
  7.  Try a new Thanksgiving dessert.
  8.  Write an autumn-themed thing, likely a short story or some poems.
  9.  Fill five pages in a sketchbook.
  10.  Post ten non-Things I Love Thursday blog posts.
  11.  Treat myself on my birthday.
  12.  Get a nice new haircut.
  13.  Work on my happy playlist.

And there it is!  Anyone reading this want to accomplish anything in particular over the course of this most wonderful of seasons?

32 Things That Make Me Happy

Several months ago I happened upon a blog called Two Thirds Hazel.  More specifically, I happened upon this 32 Things That Make Me Happy post.  In addition to sharing a list of 32 things that make her happy, Erin encouraged readers to make their own lists.  Although the link up is no longer active/open, I wanted to take the challenge and put together my own list of things that make me happy.  Here it is!

  1.  Flowers
  2.  A really good cheeseburger
  3.  Talking to and seeing friends
  4.  Anime
  5.  Watching people play video games on YouTube (particularly Minecraft and other games from the Mindcrack group and their friends)
  6.  Sweets
  7.  Cats (animals in general, really)
  8.  Pretty smelling bath and body products
  9.  The perfect lipstick
  10.  Books (reading, touching, smelling, everything about them) 32 happy things 004
  11.  A good cup of coffee or tea
  12.  When someone really likes something I’ve cooked or baked
  13.  That feeling of wonder when you visit a place you’ve never traveled to before
  14.  Thunderstorms and the smell of rain
  15.  Creating characters
  16.  That Cynthia calls Chantel and me her magical unicorns ❤
  17.  Giving gifts
  18.  Spending the day with my mom and Chantel
  19.  Getting a nice new haircut/style
  20.  Cool weather
  21.  Music
  22.  Candles 32 happy things 003
  23.  Shopping
  24.  Swimming (which I don’t get to do very often)
  25.  Cute things like plushies, stickers, etc 32 happy things 002
  26.  Taking pictures
  27.  Daydreaming
  28.  City lights twinkling in the night
  29.  The holiday season
  30.  Writing a scene for one of my stories and really loving it
  31.  Browsing and finding inspiration on Pinterest
  32.  Receiving stuff in the mail, such as letters, gifts, purchases, and other fun stuff (boo to junk, bills, and the like)

I’d love to read about what makes you happy, so if you post your own list be sure to let me know in the comments!